For over 30 years I have been assisting people with understanding their inherent Temperament. While there are several tools to use for this process, I am a huge fan of the late David Kiersey. Before his death in 2015, Kiersey honored me with his permission to place the Kiersey Sorter in my latest book Equusology.
Along with my CO Author Carolyn Fitzpatrick we created a book that allows the reader to understand ….
What is typology?
What is their own Typology?
Why does it matter ?
The second of three tests is the Equusology Sorter™ in which you answer questions about your horse to determine his typology AND third test is to give a voice to your horse, so we devised practicums you can do with your horse so he has a say in the matter!
The following is an excerpt from Equusology; Root of Temperament
Our friendships and relationships are often made with people who are very different from us. As a psychotherapist, I have always had a strong interest in how these differences flavor our lives. But what causes the unique differences in the first place?
Certainly, there are many social factors originating from the region or area in which people are raised. Some children grow up on a farm while others move around a lot with a parent in the military. Some live in a city apartment; others live in a suburban home. Those raising the child also have an impact. Some children have single parents or are with their grandparents; others have both parents as the main influencers. One person may have been raised by strict parents while another may have had permissive or even neglectful parents.
Cultural and religious factors can play a significant part in creating the norms of behavior and interaction. Each culture has its own rituals, styles of parenting, and social expectations. Even gender roles can influence how a person expresses themselves.
Traumatic events during developmental stages, such as the loss of a parent during childhood or some form of abuse, will also shape our reactions and responses to the world. As adults, traumatic events such as battle experiences or spousal abuse can shut a person’s more natural preferences down for a while. The person has not changed but their way of responding to the world has been modulated.
Birth order is also a factor. Experts who had studied birth order tell us that an only child does not have a chance to learn how to share or how to argue without siblings to practice on. A middle child may feel unseen but also has more freedom in their position. The baby of a large family can fail to feel the need to do things for themselves since someone has always taken care of things for them. Each of these scenarios will influence behavior and affect how the an individual operates in the world. However, it is their “type” that forms the platform on which they build how they will interact through it all—their learning style, the decision style they prefer, and even how they organize the experiences.
Underneath all of the normal factors sociologists use to view humanity, we can peer even deeper to find more salient factors that establish attraction in social friendships and loving marital bonds. These factors are important to understand before we make a commitment, but unfortunately, they are often less understood or even considered when we are forming these committed relationships.
One such factor is our core values. A person’s core values are central to who they are. Almost like a computer’s operating system, they govern our decisions and determine what feels important. Our values subconsciously dictate our thoughts when we are making decisions in life—not just the large and important thought-filled decisions, but also the daily and seemingly insignificant ones. It is the multitude of these smaller decisions that shape our reality because they combine over time. It is the myriad of smaller decisions—those more spontaneous than thought out and more subconscious than conscious—that can add up to extra pounds on the body or a depleted savings account.
There are many theories about how and why we form our values. Many of the factors previously discussed are thought to contribute to their formation, but can we peer even deeper? Could the secret to our core values lie in our temperament?
Three tips to remember;
Social, cultural, and religious factors influence who we are.
Our core values are central to who we are.
Temperament is the foundation upon which our values are built.